It's Hot in Here...
2001-12-14 05:33:34 (UTC)

To Be or Not To...

I'm going to law school, France, and m- and I are getting
married...Of course most of this won't happen for a good
year and a half, two years, but it's still random...

M- wants to be a police officer....Hmmmm, what do we think
about that? I don't think I really like that idea...I've
been talking to a lot of either retired or current police
officers lately and they all say that the divorce rate for
police officers is 60-80%...That doesn't look good, and
while we are committed Christians going into this marriage
with divorce being a non-option, I don't think I want to
get into that situation if I can avoid it...Not only is
there the risk factor, but I want to be a wife not a widow,
meaning I want to have my husband around and when we have
children, I want them to have a father around, especially
since I didn't.

I don't know, on one hand I really want him to have a job
that he loves, especially since he's been planning on doing
this since high school, but at the same time this isn't
really a compromise issue...If it were, I'd be the fist to
jump on that, since I am a huge fan of compromise...It's
just that I know him and I know how he is, and he eats,
sleeps, breathes, lives his work and if I want a good
relationship that doesn't really lend itself to that...I'm
really not sure how this is going to work out, but I'm sure
it will be interesting whatever it is...I just hope it's
not too messy...!