Notes from my Black
When sex becomes transactional it’s not so much a real relationship. When the lure is there occasionally and the bite is never allowed to happen, then it’s dysfunctional. I discovered what bread crumbing is.
That said, sometimes I just want the satisfaction of giving. Sometimes I just want the satisfaction of getting. Sometimes I just don’t want the expected mutuality of it. Sometimes I just need a parcel of time to myself. We all need that… and we need to know that needing time to ourselves is ok and not judged.