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My Inner Child?
I started going through the Adult Child of Alcoholics & Dysfunctional Families program. One of the things they drill down on is healing your inner child. Likewise, it appears that a lot of people are trapped in a type of victim stasis.
For me, this is a difficult concept to understand. It kind of puzzled me, there were people in my group that have been in the program for years and still are dealing with issues from decades ago. I actually went through a therapy program years ago in the military. The most recent situation with my parents, simply re-triggered some stuff for me. My goal with ACA is like it was with my oncologist. Treat the issue, establish protocols for moving forward and heal. I am actually not interested at all in a life long bitch-fest or wallowing in reliving my childhood.
As I said last night in the meeting, I have a real difficulty with the "healing your inner child" thing. For me, I was parentified at 11-12 years old, have had a full military career, a professional career, married for 38 years and have grown children, who did not grow up in an abusive environment. My "inner child" no longer exists and has not for a long, long time. I have not thought, behaved or had the emotions of a child/teenager for over 40 years. My goal is to deal with the issues of my alcoholic and dysfunctional parents now, as a 58 year old with 76 year old whack-a-doodle parents.