Being Sam
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2022-06-23 18:44:52 (UTC)

Irritating opinions

I ask everyone at work a Reddit question on a daily basis. It’s something I’ve done for a while because I find the different ways people respond or understand the same thing, fascinating. Sometimes it’s a stupid questions and sometimes more serious ones but we all join in and share our answers. If for nothing else, it helps conversation flow which makes time pass a little faster.
I don’t even remember todays question, I just know that it brought up the topic of a “broken home” and Neil and Kerry took it quite seriously, saying that your parents breaking up was seriously damaging for the children. Now, I’m not saying it doesn’t affect the child, because Ofcourse it does. But do I think it is ALWAYS severely damaging? No. I don’t. And the more they talked about it the darker the conversation was getting, so to shed a little light on it, I said it wasn’t all bad because I got 2 holidays a year, 2 birthday presents, 2 Christmas presents, new brothers and sisters and special 1 on 1 time with my dad that I doubt I’d have gotten had he still lived at home. I said all of this in a pretty breezy way, and yet Neil still managed to piss all over it by saying that I’m clearly damaged and need everybody’s approval. And I don’t know if this was meant as a joke or a throw away comment for the sake of shutting me up, but it really annoyed me. I genuinely don’t think I go around seeking approval and yet that comment has caused me to sit back and doubt myself to the point where I’m TRYING to find times that I’ve done it unconsciously. Which is daft, right?
Like I said, I’m sure my mum and dads break up when I was 3 and all the shit that following while I was growing up has had an affect on me. But do I think it’s damaged me as a whole? Changed who I am as a person in a negative way? Fuck, no. If anything it’s helped me. Atleast thats how I feel.