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Show Up = Grow Up
“Growing up is losing some illusions in order to acquire others.” (Virginia Woolf)
Hollis's second chapter is called "It's Time to Grow Up." It's a fairly short chapter, but he notes that when he has historically asked people the question of "Where do you need to grow up?" they often know the answers, but they are unwilling to take the actions that come with the awareness - they'd rather revel in comfort than face the discomfort of fear or change.
He then goes on to explain some aspects to this. First, he mentions that the discrepancy arises from a "gap between the expectations of our projections and the transferences." Once a person is able to realize this, then he or she must respond to the summons of a larger question: What am I asking of the other that I am not addressing in myself? He calls this question the heroic question (based on Jung's archetypology) and also says that this question "embodies a shift in our center of gravity from the other 'out there' to the other 'within.'"
In essence, and very plainly, he says "showing up" basically equates to "growing up." But there is still another related question to consider, which is what is the price I pay for not growing up? Is that price ultimately worth the comfort that comes with it? I don't think so, but I can see where others may have an opposite opinion.
P.S. Just as an aside, speaking of not growing up, one of my favorite stupid movies I used to watch over and over as a kid was _Saturday the 14th_. It came out when I was 10 years old. It's similar to Airplane in that it is a spoof on horror movies, and I absolutely loved it. I might just watch it again today for fun and nostalgia's sake, since it is Saturday the 14th after all. Anyone who wants to join me in celebrating this day, just go to the link below: