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Bunches and bunches
2022-01-05 09:18:53 (UTC)

Unchosen Fields

About a year ago, Mr. Curved Line decided a rather monumental compromise, he would spend half his time, half his life with me. At the time I had no words for this. We are both married with children to others. He has full time employment and oftentimes I do as well. It makes for very busy lives. And while both these lives have been cultivated to reach this point, in no way have either of us arrived at this point in our collective lives by mere happenstance, we are swamped in spoken for time. Getting married, those many long years ago, may have not been considered as carefully as I have so many other choices in my life, but having a baby surely was a years long ordeal. Likewise, Mr. Curved Line had not taken marriage lightly his second go through and children had been an ongoing set of decisions to attain.

As it happened, I was the party to announce it to his extended family. I got a very positive reception, they all long ago, decided I was to be treated as an extension of their family and as such, I was now being made permanent. Without a traditional marriage allotted to me, this was going to be as close as we got to merging the families. In the past, they have been cheerleaders of the idea of handfasting to more publicly make the unit both known and respected. All this from a family who had only decided a few weeks prior to my emergence in Mr. Curved Line's life, that polyamory was what they all wanted and that kitchen table was a way to achieve it.

That moment, that decision on his part to fully open himself to me in as meaningful a fashion as is allowable, gave a credence to our burgeoning relationship that I had not expected in the slightest. My life, then, had to likewise be reordered and I needed to take continuous measures to assure my place in his family and life. I had multiple relationships within that framework, individually with every member of his household. And to welcome him into my life in such a way that I was meeting him halfway with his commitment to be a huge figure in my life.

Taking up so large a chunk of my life, I set about to do all that I could to make our relationship really fulfill us both. And since it started in the open category of relationships, that is where I spent my effort. So we acquired some benefitted friends, so that Mr. Curved Line could gather some breadth of experience he lacked. We spoke of friends only he and I shared, ones in which we were the main couple. And for a while, over a year, in fact, we chose to explore rather than be alone in our relationship. Now, as we find solace in the cold season in each other's presence, we are more at ease with the concept of us alone. And places we once bypassed as we moved along our relationship are now chosen as our destination. We find ourselves in previously unchosen fields.




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