Nick's Journal
2021-11-21 14:00:28 (UTC)


Leave it to Seinfeld to split the truth. Beyond that though, you have to take into account the fact that, when you do meet someone who is actually dateable, there's maybe (at best) a 50/50 shot that you are compatible. in other words, dating is hard. I write that because I have finally (I've only been dating for 6 months or so, so it's not been that long) found someone that I like, am sexually attracted to and am compatible with.

I love Master of None, I really do, but boy did that give me a glorified version of dating. only on a Netflix show would a small, chubby Indian dude end up with a beautiful Italian woman, come on. and only on this show would the male protagonist go on crazy dates. now I know, I know, it's a show, it's supposed to be entertaining and of course it is all embellished, if not straight made up, but I thought that dating would be something like that.

boy was I wrong. mostly it's tedious, sometimes it's depressing and most of the time its kind of stressful. most people are just dull. I don't mean in an intelligence way (although that too) but just their lives. they haven't really done anything. they have no stories. and you don't even need stories but my god, just carry some conversation. blah.

enough about that.

let's talk about compatibility in the workplace. I love my boss and colleagues in the legal department. that is huge. if you have a job where your boss sticks up for you and you get along with your coworkers cherish it, because the opposite is a nightmare. of course, as legal, we interact with every other department.

currently I'm working on this acquisition and I'm dealing with this lady who's been with the company for over 20 years. dude, this woman is a nightmare. she openly berates people in emails (me included) and just all around acts like a prime asshole. I've worked with a lot of assholes and I just don't get it. I've worked with non-assholes and there is no difference in success. YOU DO NOT NEED TO BE AN ASSHOLE TO SUCCEED.

the best was that they did a bio on her for diversity (because apparently they couldn't choose one of our many minorities, they had to go with a white woman who got the job because her dad was an investor in the company). it was hilarious even through the documentary she comes off as a bitch. they interviewed her and we all had to attend for one of those mandatory diversity trainings. the absolute best parts were when they had people talk about B, those people looked like hostages on videos, nervously glancing at the camera.

anyway, this woman is a nightmare. she's one of those people who are with the company mainly because she began when it was small and was lucky to have ridden its coattails all the way to the top. she has no formal education and basically her main value is that she knows everything through and through (which, admittedly is a huge asset). but christ, show some humility.

I guess I just don't get why people feel like they have to be assholes. just treat people with respect and coworkers with kindness and respect; you're all on the same team.

last thought, do you think that animals ever get embarrassed or ashamed by their offspring? like do you think that a lioness watches her cub in the savannah acting a fool trying to hunt and thinks to herself, "my god, I produced THIS?"