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Through the Looking-Glass
2021-10-15 18:59:48 (UTC)

Thought out sayonara

Yep...I made a decision. He was too full-on, for what I want or need. It was a combination of things...one he thought my daughter was a rivalry. Mhm, my response, "She comes first, there is no rivalry." who says shit like that??? Another thing, he said we were already in a relationship, erm, since when was I did I decide that with you? Another thing, gradually he was pushing me to make changes to myself and my lifestyle for him. Erm, NOPE. So he had to go. I told him today, rather than ghost him and be a cunt like most people. He tried to argue his points and followed by numerous messages to me that I didn't answer and then numerous phone calls, that I didn't answer. So spiritual this or that or not, and whatever that connection was, perhaps he kept me, prisoner, in a former life then murdered me hahaha.....either way, not happening this lifetime.

How did I come to the decision, weighed up the deciding factor? I was driving in my car through country lanes today, thinking about pros and cons and that incredible connection with him, when in my mind I said to myself, "He wants me to fit his preferences but what has he brought to my life to warrant me adhering to his preferences? Nothing, he has brought nothing but underhanded expectations of me." Just as I came to the end of that thought, I had pulled into a layby to let a car pass down the lane and a white feather trickled out of a tree on the other side of the lane and landed on my bonnet. That's when I had my decision. No more, Persian prince. So, ladies, he is all yours. That's the problem with wealthy men, they're demanding and expectant in their personal lives too. Just like the Italian Count millionaire, Roberto who I was engaged to in my 30's, he was exactly the same and that is not how I will live my life.

So anyway, I text Mr fast n Furious, him being the only other guy I hadn't said jog on to, and said, "Fancy going out for a drink Saturday night?" haha, we've been chatting on the phone, his calling back shortly. He was asking about my other dates, told him all, I've nothing to hide.

Also, today I had to deal with my boss sexually harassing me again. I was so stressed and upset, but after speaking to HR for advice and then a trusted colleague confidentially I decided to just have a direct conversation with my boss and let him know we're not down with the lads, we're not in a pub, neither is it the place to remark the way he does sexually towards me, including the latest incident that ALL witnessed in the conference. He apologized profusely and said it won't happen again, in the meantime a colleague of mine has sent me an email stating all that he witnessed and said, keep it if he does it again, don't hesitate. HR told me to do a grievance against him, but I decided to give him a chance, he is learning management and well, I'll likely be working alongside him soon doing his job but in the south-east.

However, in light of this happening it has bred a new chapter, I have been asked to begin conference video calls with my female colleagues to communicate what is right and wrong in the workplace regarding sexual harassment. To support them and be their port of call if they need to confide in another woman. Well, that's what I do, teach people, train people, not only in my work life but also through my spirituality (which is kept strictly from work) I will be training three new women soon that we have just employed and I intend on being a port of call for them in case they encounter the same. We work in a male-dominated industry so it's highly likely to have or will do. God knows I have many times but I have the balls to approach them directly and make sure it stops. In my boss's case, he got three chances, because frankly a couple of times beforehand were very mild and he isn't vindictive just a silly boy in a man's body. I am training him currently on how to fucking manage people. What a joke, aye?

Lol, people are twats.

Over & Out xx




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