FieryIntrovert

Delightedly Seething
2020-08-30 10:47:23 (UTC)

When Silence is Best

Those who know me best know that I'm not generally the type who likes to make waves. I prefer to sit back, listen, learn, and let others take charge. This can lead to me feeling forgotten about, but that's another blog for another time. In staying silent I get to observe others and learn things they don't realize, especially since there are those who think that because of my nasally voice and my stutter that I'm mentally handicapped and therefore don't pick up on whispers about me or that they can talk freely around me and I just won't understand because I won't contribute to the conversation. But why should I defend myself to people who don't matter? I'm smarter than that.


But what these people don't realize is the power they're giving me. In staying quiet and letting some think I'm stupid or whatever, I learn a lot about people. Their true thoughts and feelings, their body language (which is even more telling about a person than their words at times), and even the kind of person they really are. Kind to your face but a vicious backstabber once you're gone, for instance. And I have a great memory so I retain what I learn to possibly use in the future.


When it comes to dealing with people online, there are sometimes things I'll wonder about but not bring up or question, because I can draw my own conclusions on what I read. And the little digs I occasionally get when I share things that happen to me? Bring them on.


My point to all of this is that I have found that silence is power. The things you don't realize that I hear or notice are things that, if/when necessary, I can turn around and use against that person. Also, don't forget the quiet people. We're the ones you won't hear, or see, coming.




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