Jake 🇺🇸

Killing Lions
2015-05-09 01:48:15 (UTC)

Emotion and reflections

Tomorrow is my graduation. Wow. It kinda snuck up on me tbh, I've been far too busy worrying about my studies and getting A's... why? Because that's what I've done all my life. I don't really know any other life.

I have friends. Lots of people who enjoy my company: not because I'm an awesome guy to be around but because I'm another person and people love to hang out with other people. There's this one girl i know who I'm pretty sure would accept a date or a "hang-out" with me, but, I just haven't had the time. Even though I have the opportunity to get to know tons of people and make good friends I haven't been able to since I've been too busy. Things like going out to eat with people I haven't actively tried to do.

I am proud though of what I've accomplished and all but I know I'm missing out.

I guess I just need to spend more time planning out activities. I've been too much of a consumer all of my life.

Last year I was always like: "Yeah, I'll do that with you" or "I'll attend the meeting" or even "I would totally support you by showing up..." Maybe I'm just not much of a leader. I don't like to take initiative. I'm afraid of failing. As I move on to other things in my life I need to step up my game on these things.

Another thing I've come to realize is that people with high IQ are usually out of touch with the world. Emotional intelligence is far more important in life. In fact, I would say it's the key to being successful in life. A couple skills of someone with high emotional intelligence:

:: Able to recognize you own emotions. Knowing when you're sad, when you're overwhelmed, when too much is too much. These are fairly easy to determine after the fact, however, when you are experiencing emotion, logic becomes unimportant.

:: Being able to recognize your own emotions and how they affect you. Emotion really does cloud your judgement, this is what makes humans so unpredictable. Emotion isn't bad though, true connection can only come from emotion - and we were created for love and relation with each other (and God of course). You can't "hire" a friend, you have to MAKE a friend from emotional connections. If you can recognize yourself better, then you understand your own strengths and weaknesses.

::Understanding the emotional needs of others. Everyone wants to feel important and you can make that happen. But you can't do that unless you understand their emotional needs. This is a really hard one for me since I'm usually just trying to be friendly and think of things to say when I'm with people. Thus, I don't spend time thinking about what their emotional needs are. Some people show a lot of emotion and are pretty easy to predict; people like that since they can easily identify their instant emotional needs. I enjoy it when someone can give me a gift and know my reaction. Being a caring individual can be someone who takes the time to understand your emotional needs, not someone who just gives you an expensive gift.

well, that's all I can think of for now... hopefully I'll be able to live out some of this.




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