Nikki

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2015-02-27 14:43:15 (UTC)

To Snoop, Or Not To Snoop..

I know the saying goes "don't look for what you don't want to find" and I believe that 100%, but that doesn't make you not want to look.

Me and my boyfriend have passwords on our phones. We both have iphones. He has the new on that requires the finger print to unlock it and I have just a 4 number code. There's no getting into his phone without his finger print, which is in fact sign of cheating #1. I've noticed in the last 4 months he keeps his phone on silent when we're together. The minute we're apart, it's taken off silent. I know that because when I come in from work and he doesn't know I'm home, i'll hear his phone go off from a text message. When we're in the car going somewhere his phone stays in his pocket and when I get out, he's on the phone playing a game or talking to someone. That's sign #2. Sign #3 would be he doesn't charge his phone around me. He'll charge it in the bathroom while he's in there, when i'm not home, when i'm asleep, or when he's on his way to work in the car. When he actually charges his phone IN the house with me, he lays it close to him of course, on silent, and face down.

I try not to be on his case about it, because I put my password on first, not for a reason -just because. If he would have asked for the password it would have been given, but instead of asking for it or even asking why I did it, he put a password on his. When he started sleeping with the phone in his pant pocket or somewhere hidden, I did the same. My phone also stays on silent in his presence. Now i'll admit it was immature to copy what he was doing although it was a problem to me rather than confront it, but I was mad, and was trying to get even.

Now my mind is starting to wander. Female intuition. I keep having dreams about him and another female, it's been like three nights in a row that I've had these dreams. So my mind is beginning to question if I'm allowing his actions to continue by not saying something, or doing the usual female phone sneaking. I will admit, in the past I have gone through his phone and found things that upset me and damaged our relationship. I also will say we're in a good place RIGHT NOW so should I jeopardize that by snooping or ignore the intuition I have? He's a much harder sleeper than I am, so to find his phone and place his finger on it to unlock it honestly would not be a issue.. I just have been too busy fighting myself over what to do that I haven't done anything except rack my brain over this.

Is there something really going on that I should look into?

Ugh




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