Pier4R

Pier4R thoughts
2013-12-08 16:01:01 (UTC)

B.20131205

Berlin dec the fifth

yesterday.
It started almost to snow, is not really snowning, and there was also an alarm for an hurricane! How strange for me!

Anyway, i did a bit better on the work, or maybe i feel it better. For example i reinforced the shelve that sustain an heavy server (almost 20kg) with self securing cables. I'm quite proud of it since i did a structure like a bridge, quite strong in my opinion.

For the rest i received a "unwanted message" after the ultimatum. There are several ways, more or less accurate and abstract, to describe the problem. The easier one that i found so far is: in a group of people there are rules to follow (written and unwritten) if one doesn't want to follow them and doesn't want to stay in the group, it is a legit move. No-one should be forced, else the power of the rules is not in their meaning but in the raw power (i mean in terms of physical strength) of the group. And forcing someone by strength is trivial, so for me is for simple minded people.

Anyway there can be the case that the group wants to discuss with the one that wants to exit what is wrong with the rules, and this is a dangerous request. Why?
First because requiring a motivation doesn't mean that if the motivation seems not sufficient (for who listen it) the other person can't do what he/her wants to do. In other words, giving a motivation, depending on the case, is not like requesting an approval to do the action.

The second source of danger is: if the group uses a different base to argue, compared to the person that wants to exit, there is no way to do a proper debate. It is like using two different communication protocols, or in a more accurate way, they using apparently the same protocol but with different meaning in the backend. So it is useless. Of course some trials in communicating should be done to confirm if the protocols for communications are the same or not.

But when it is clear that the protocol is different, the communication should stop else is almost a waste of resources and emotions.

So, some of my family member still send me hurting communications, and i sent them an ultimatum about stopping it or else i will die. They ignored that ultimatum so now i should act.

ps: i'm still doing a lot of basics errors in english (written, and even more spoken), before to start training myself with complex sentences, i should fix these errors. And remember that in the end we are driven by necessities.




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