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2013-05-09 18:14:18 (UTC)

The Complete Guide To Getting A Life


I was quite a nerd, geek, loser or whatever you call it back when I was younger.
I was “that guy”, the one nobody liked until they needed help with homework or an essay, or term paper. I knew that, because most of my “so-called” friends were usually acting weird and giving me cold stares in school.
I literally had no social life and my extremely bad sense of fashion reflected that.
My overall confidence level was low.

What’s in a life?

The “Get a life” line is quite a cliché, aiming towards people with… well no life at all.
So, as you can see, I lived the stereotype once, the “nerd” who read, studied, or wrote alot, didn’t go out with friends and of course, had no real close friends.
It was through lifestyle experiments, backed up with a heart to change for the better that I turned myself around.
The immediate results were getting out of the house more, socializing with people and even getting a few close friends.

So what’s in a life?

Is it just about transforming from a stay-at-home nerd who relies on himself or technology, to a more popular person in social settings who high fives the whole world?
Not really.
Socializing, heading out, meeting new people and getting close friends are all good, but getting a life entails alot more than that.
We’re talking end goals of attaining confidence, self-esteem and most importantly, balance.

Check it:
The definition of getting a life-
To achieve a sense of balance in one’s own life so that he or she is completely comfortable with who that person in the mirror is.
Again, balance, balance, balance.
For a life you can be proud of.
That being said… typical “tools” like money, nice clothes, new gadgets, number of Facebook friends, number of followers on Twitter and Instagram or number of times you go out, doesn’t matter all that much.
But keep in mind, change is required if you want to get a life.

Here’s the complete guide to getting a life

1) Fact you should know: “Life” is what YOU make of it
You be the judge of that.
What you like to do and what you want in life is up to you.
Internet or beach parties? Your choice.
No one else should dictate your truth.
So amidst your journey of change and getting a life, remember to recognize deep down how you feel. There’s no point feeling shitty all the time while supposedly having a life based on others’ expectations. Dump ideas you don’t care for and stop listening to what others think of you.

2) Take action with lifestyle experiments
Because “taking action” alone is some of the most overrated shit ever.
Real change comes from experimentation.
With experimentation comes, getting out of your comfort zone, facing and feeling any fears. Then you do it anyway.
Never eaten a meal alone before? Do it.
Never asked a guy/girl out before? Do it.
Feeling left out since you’re new to the group? Hang in there.
Facing and feeling your fears, getting uncomfortable, and doing something different.
You need to try it. If you’re the one who feels you need a change, then you ought to be stepping it up.

3) Get off social media
Seriously, please do.
Internet and social media make things too easy and convenient for us. You may not know it, but your mind is literally rotting from too much of it.
There are better ways to connect with others, namely, physically and emotionally.
Just open up a little. You don’t have to transform into a “social butterfly,” but there is a life waiting for you out there.

4) Get out of the house
Indoor person, outdoor person, introvert or extrovert, whatever.
Everybody needs to get out of the house. Don’t be cooped up in a single room all day. It isn’t good.
Your eyes and body alone will be given a treat when you do so. Even a simple 10-minute walk can help.
This is called giving yourself the space for your mind and it is absolutely needed.
I don’t believe anyone loves stay in 100% all the time. Even if they claim they do, they’re lying and realizing the unhealthy side effects.

5) Take frequent breaks and make sure they’re good ones.
Yes, everybody needs a break. No excuses, even for yourself.
That’s how you recharge, relieve stress and actually feel… life. Yeah, feel life, literally.
Work hard all you like, but you aren’t meant to go at it non-stop. You need to relax.
But the break has to be an awesome one. It has to be meaningful.
Social media, random Facebook surfing, or YouTube videos you don’t really care for, don’t count. They’re worthless. They’re the black holes that make you feel like you’re in space, one which adds no meaning whatsoever to your life.

6) Meet people
Because you’re human. And we all exist together. No excuses again. You’re bound to have to associate and/or work with others one way or another.

7) Balance it out
See how, for whatever I’ve said, it’s never going into extremes? That’s why you won’t find stupid ideas like, “You should go to every party” or “Delete your WoW account”.
Achieve total balance in the middle. Too much of something or not enough of something else isn’t good for you.

8) Live it up
Not sure if you should do it? Just do it anyway. Better to regret trying than not at all.
Lately I’ve been pushing myself to get out of the house more, ignoring my computer, emails and allowing my text messages to wait for an answer.
It didn’t feel that great at first, but I dealt with it.
So that means if I can do it, you can do it too.
Pretty soon, you’re going to look back and realize that it wasn’t so bad after all, even the shitty, uncomfortable moments. They’re going to be replaced by some great experiences and memories.

9) Travel
That’s how you expose yourself to different cultures and its people.
Warning: Your mind will be blown here.
Different places and people expose you to new ways of life that get you thinking of how important the things others do actually are and how some who have a less complicated life than yours, seem so much happier.

10) Go full circle
Back to point 1.
It’s always what you and only you make of it.
But your own circle can always be expanded.
Never underestimate that.
Your life will always be fucked up from time to time,
live it up anyway, and know that you always did everything you could within your power to create a life you can be proud of.
That’s how you grab hold of life and really get a life.

Grab it by the fucking balls before it’s too late.




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