Middle Child

Listen. Don't Speak.
2011-09-08 23:15:53 (UTC)

My decision?

I've decided to call it quits with TutorGuy. I'm not as interested in him like I use to be, along with many other things.

I'm dating a man 9 years my senior and he still doesn't know what he wants in his life. He still lives at home (only child) and his mother is too motherly. I wish my mom made my lunch for work, washed my laundry.. etc, etc. I think he's too immature for his age. Sometimes he's a handful even for me to handle. When he doesn't get his way with me, I can tell he's holding back his anger... only a matter of time before he snaps, but I won't let it happen. This man wants to have children 5 years from now, when he's close to 40?! When I'm 30, he'll decided whether or not to have kids?! I have a clock that is ticking......

My parents met him recently, after 3 months of dating him and to be honest, I really don't mind that my mother took me aside and talked to me about him. My mother was calm and open to talk about him and I, and quite frankly, I reciprocated. My mother openly told me that he is too old for me, a man his age doesn't want to settle, but wants to "date" younger women who are not ready to settle down either. She continued to tell me that her and my father don't think he's a good match for me. My mother had to remind me that I am pretty and intelligent, I am an independent woman who completed university and works a 9 to 5 job. I shouldn't settle for less...

My mother brought up the same concerns I had with him. And to hear my mother repeat exactly what it was that I was unsure of, reconfirmed that he isn't for me.

I want to end this relationship. I want to get out of it, but I don't want him to make a big scene of it. Will he?

I don't really want to date actually. I just want to be left alone. My weekdays are busy now and the little free time that I have, I want to be with my friends. Everyone's lives are changing, to accommodate each other's schedules is hectic; but manageable.

I don't have a list of things I want in a man, only the necessary traits of course.

I'm still working on myself :-)

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