I Have News....
I have found out who it is...it is her boss!!
She has been exchanging bb, emails,pics and possibly more with him....I feel relieved. I am no longer weak, I feel very strong.
I am waiting for her to get home tonight so I can tell her I will be starting divorce proceedings and i will get my solicitor to write her boss to tell him I will be making a complaint about him to his superiors and to his own wife.....tonight will be interesting...I will let you know how I get on tomorrow :)