LittlebabyG_10

What happened?
2010-02-17 20:19:13 (UTC)

The Next Lie

Ok, so I have given this husband of mine of 5 years a
billion chances to come clean, I have caught him in every
type of lie. Here is a brief highlight of the biggies:
age
job
home
children (or lack of)
online infidelity
pysical cheating
non-payment of bills
money mismanagement
emptying out his 401K
trying to buy a car behind my back
and the latest......he lied about where he went to
university, pretending for 7 and 1/2 years that he went
somewhere that he didn't, and only fessed up when I
demanded he stop the wild goose chase he had sent the
university's records department.Of course I had to call
the poor woman he was arguing on the phone with and
explain to her that he was lying, and sorry for your
trouble.

There are always little ones along the way, like what he
ate, how much he ate, where he went on his errand, why he
couldn't complete something around the house, blah blah
blah. It's really very tiring. I am trying to raise two
boys, find a new job after losing mine after 9 years,
going back to school to learn a new career that will be
hopefully more recession proof than retail. I've been
divorced for 7 years, and my ex's girlfriend (who is 16
years younger than him) hates my guts and wants to
undermine my position as a mother at any opportunity. I
really don't need his crap.

He lost his job too, the week of Thanksgiving. He says he
got laid off, but he prob got fired, he just won't tell me
the truth.

And how does someone keep these kind of big lies going for
so long? He moved two hours away from home to live with me
in the beginning, he has older siblings that are not close
to him, and aging unhealthy parents. He has no friends
visit. His cousins don't even call. I feel that if he has
always done this phony-baloney with others, they are prob
better off they don't have to deal with the drama.

My parents have been married for 37 years, and have been
thru anything imaginable. Health problems, multiple
bankruptsys, infidelity, abuse, religious differences,the
stigma of an inter-racial marriage, the list goes on. They
stayed together. So shouldn't I, after all he did was lie.
My first marriage was abusive, physically and mentally, he
was an alcoholic who topped off his drinking career by
passing out drunk on the way home from the bar and
crashing into a house one block from our home.

So lets just say that my life hasn't been too rosy, did I
mention that I had a deadly disease when I was 6, and had
brain surgery twice to save me? But I'm not bitter,,,,




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