Silent Solitude

Silent Until Now...
2009-09-28 01:12:43 (UTC)

Must compare two similar situations

Today I went the NY Anime Fest '09 with my friend/supervisor
from work. Both of us love anime and I invited him to join
me today. It was great and we both had a fun time. On the
way home, he kept on talking about his situation with his
wife and shit. I now know he's been cheating on here with
someone in the Bronx. Now, I totally believe that his
situation at home is shitty. I've seen the "box" he lives
in and if that was case for me, I'd probably do the same.
Here's my conflict: I'm kinda torn between his situation and
my own.

He wants to get a separation from his wife because he
doesn't love her anymore. The thing is that he has to get a
place of his own and a second job to get by. However, he
did it in the way that was similar to my pops. He basically
got sex outside of his marriage. He even said he'd probably
pay a hooker just to get his rocks off. Half of me feels
like the man deserves to get laid. He had a 9-year hiatus
due to his wife turning asexual after having their daughter.
The other half of me thinks that he did it in a messed up
way. If he was going to do that, he should have just let it
all out to his wife. They really would have to argue about
it and of course it's gonna be ugly. What makes it hard for
me to think about is their daughter. She's gonna be part of
this sooner or later. In her mind, she may think that she
gonna be abandoned by her father. In my case, I'm old
enough to understand why my pops left. Still doesn't mean
that it didn't hurt. Now, his daughter is only 8 and old
enough to be aware of what going on. What may happen is she
may resent her father if the separation does happen. I'm
afraid that her mom will put some sick ideas in her head and
make her hate him. Why do I think that? Because she's a
motherland born filipino.

Now, some of you may think why would the fact that she being
born in the motherland would be a factor. Simply because I
live with one...my mom. Both these women have a lot in
common. 1) Both like to argue about nothing, 2) Both are
asexual after having a child, and 3) They both are highly
gullible especially with their "friends". That makes a
dangerous combination. They basically share qualities that
most filipino women do. Not all of them do that, but the
ones that I've seen are pretty atypical. It's the family
structure that those savages back in the motherland abide
by. Yes, I'm calling them savages. These savages believe
that everything a family member does must be beneficial for
the family as a whole. This is brought to a point where
every little thing is critical. For example, say I buy
lunch for myself and then go home with it. If my mom was
there and I had like siblings around, the first thing she'd
complain about was that I bought for myself and not think
about the rest of the family. That's just straight up wrong
because I shouldn't provide everytime I go out and get food.
I'm not doing something just so that someone else can
benefit for my work.

In the case of my friend's wife (from what he tells me) is
that she uses her daughter as a scape goat to get her way
from situations like trying to move to a better place. She
also sleeps with her daughter in the same bed he's supposed
to be sleeping in. He's been sleeping on their couch for
over 9 years. Even at the age of 8, his wife sleeps with
their daughter on the same bed. That's fucking sick. Who
still has their kid sleep in their bed? In their situation,
I can see why. He did tell me though that when they had a
place with 2 bedrooms, she still let her daughter sleep in
their bed. This woman has serious problems. The worst of
them is letting her husband know that she doesn't care. Not
by saying so, but by ignoring her situation with him.

I seriously feel sorry for the guy. Once this separation
happens, their daughter will get the short end of the stick.
I'll feel more sorry for her. It's sad to see something
like this. It's even worse because it's now a common thing.
There's no more family values or even happy married
couples. The state of the US family is declining and it's
fucking sad. What the fuck can anyone say about families
falling apart, couples getting divorced, and putting
children as some type of collateral for more money? All I
have to say is what Al Pacino said in Scarface (not the
exact words): "This country is like a big pussy waiting to
get fucked." It's fucking sad and unfortunately it's reality.




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