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The Metallic life
2009-03-28 07:31:57 (UTC)

Entry 99: New life lessons

Work has been really tempting-I've been given an offer to be an assistant
Manager, exciting right? I have thought about it and have talked to the most
trusting people that I know of today. With all the patience, support and
thoughtfulness-I would like to mention how much I appreciate all the effort.

I was talking to a friend, who also works at the same company, mentioned
the possibilities of taking the offer. What motivation that was!! But I've also
been hearing the flip side of it from other friends. Now I have the ability to
make a more thoughtful decision and it's been soooo tough. On one side of
the coin, I have been told that hey, it may be a slight pay raise but with, at
least, to a bare minimum, I would have an easier time writing out a resume, if
given a chance to take another job. The credentials will at least allow me to
have some kind of upper hand if and when I need it. But on the other side of
the coin-someone told me that "It sounds like....gut instincts was the only
way to go." Both are very true and undeniable. It's obvious that I have heard
other interpretations.

I think most notably, one added motivation to the mix was this: A guy I know
made it clear to me-If I don't say anything, nothing will happen. This person
is right, for too long I've been making these mistakes:

1: I was too scared to say anything in fear of the end result (and not speaking
up)

2:I spent too much time weighing my options

3:Wanting to move ahead although I was unprepared

Allow me to sort these 3 points out.

1: Yes, I was too scared to say anything, not knowing what will happen. But
given the idea that why things are happening, I need to take into
consideration that I will not know what will happen if I don't analyze why. I'm
not psychic, that I know. But with intuition, luck, maybe I'll get an idea and
have some kind of control. But with facts, past and present, things will allow
me to be more decisive. I am to combine, luck, intuition, and facts if I want
something to work. Similarly, Bruce Lee has said something in an interview
which I don't believe stands within the context of martial arts but extends to
endless scenarios. This is what he said:

1: Empty your mind. Be formless, shapeless. Like water, now you put water
into a cup, it becomes a cup, you put water in a bottle it becomes the bottle,
you put it in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Water can flow or it can crash-
be water my friend-Bruce Lee

This is open to interpretation-but personally this has taught me to put more
emphasis on being able to adapt to a situation more fluently. Not that I didn't
know how, just not as much as I do today.

2nd quote from Bruce lee: I mean here it is, the natural instinct and here is
control. you are to combine the 2 in harmony. If you have one to the extreme
you will be very unscientific, if you have another to the extreme you become
all of a sudden a mechanical man.

I think I've been more unscientific then being a mechanical man simply
because I tend to invest more into intuition and luck. I'm a smart guy, but
because of my upbringing, intuition and luck have been the better option. So
what I want to learn is to be mechanical, but not to the extreme. I think this is
what has separated me from everyone else-I see it in other people with ease-
most of whom I've met seem mechanical. And I've seen problems with it-but
that's not to forget that there are problems with intuition and luck as well.

2: I believe the reason why I spent too much time weighing my time was
because the amount of wealth that came in (in reference to all I've been told).
And this point is certainly connected to point 1 and 3. With current health
issues that I have, it made things even more of a challenge. Having to dodge
my well being and work related stuff at once is no easy task. But now that I've
been doing my best to learn to control my health-I better start moving
forward and waste no more time.

3: Another friend of mine had explained to me that sometimes life will be
uncomfortable. He noticed that when I feel uncomfortable, he sees me back
away. he had mentioned that I need to stop doing that simply because some
moments in life will be uncomfortable, and if I don't learn to face those
moments-I probable wont progress in life. One can interpret that as being a
man, having some balls or guts like a man should have. But from personal
experience, that's just a stereotypical idea. My friends and I are more along
the lines of maturity. It's not about being the man, it's about learning to
mature. Yes, I am pretty mature (for my age) but I'm still young and because
of my age, there are things that I need to learn. I'm not 80 years old you
know. You ever notice that you will have slim to no chance of hearing and 80
year old guy say "be a man". There's a reason why they usually don't say stuff
like that.

Tagging along past experiences, experiences at work, and the love, support
and patience from friends-I feel more comfortable. I have some other
companies in the works that are lined up in case things don't work the way
I'd like them too at my current job. I have doors that are open already, I just
need to walk through them. For example my supervisor at my previous job
(Great america) would most certainly take me in once more if I decide to-I
did such a great job there. But before or if I do, I would like to finish ruling
out current situations. I have some unfinished business and some
unanswered questions that will keep lingering until I'm all done getting the
answers I need.

I will close with one final and crucial thought that I have learned throughout
this whole ordeal: Maturity is the ability to express ones opinions, emotions
and/or concerns with regards and respect to the opinions, emotions and
concerns of others. combine practicality with intuition and you may see
things though a whole new light




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