Emilee

Phantomgirl
2008-03-18 19:49:52 (UTC)

My Obstacles

So.. Just thought I would write in here because I need a
place to sort out all of my thoughts.
-My grades. If I were to transfer schools, my grades are
horrible and wouldn't help me get in to any good schools
-Getting the money to go to England for the summer.
-Getting passport pictures. Getting a ride to go to the
store so I can get passport pictures.
-The stress of getting a passport. I have to get an entire
new passport because I was under the age of 16 last time I
got one. Joy. The whole tedious paperwork process again.
-Helping Ryan with student visa, payment plans etc.
-What if Ryan won't get student visa. How will he come to
country?
-Fiancee visa - must get married in 90 days. We need
to spend time together before we can get married.
-Cannot get visa through sister because sister isn't
a citizen. Sister is a legal perm. resident and can only
help spouse and kids come into the country.
- Cannot get a visa through work, in order to get
visa through work you have to have been working at your
trade for at least two years. Ryan only worked one year as a
Mason.
-This pretty much means that in order for us to spend time
together I would have to spend a year in England. Which I
don't want to do because
A)School is expensive in England
B) There are no LDS schools in England
C) Education is not as good in England
D) The english kids are more wild then over here.
E) What would I do with the credit that I earn while
living in England?
F) I would still have to do all the things that Ryan is
having difficulties with - get a visa. ect.

-Then their is the potential problem if Ryan gets into
school here it will eat up his entire savings. What newly
weds want to start on nothing?
-Ryan could not get a job while living in the USA. It is
illegal to get a job on a student visa. The only job he can
get is on campus - which pays less than 6 dollars an hour,
and you can only have a max. of 90 hours.
-We could in theory change all of this pretty easily. If we
were married we could take student loans out in my name. It
would save both of us money by freeing us up from living on
campus, meal plans. ect. It would help ryan become a citizen
a lot faster - 3 years instead of 5 and would allow ryan to
get a job. Of course none of this can happen because of
rules. I tried to talk to my mother about this today - and
was not successful, she accused me of rebellion when really
the initial idea had been the end of July to begin with. It
wasn't in an act of rebellion that I was trying to reason
with my mother - it was simply trying to reason with her and
see if their was an idea that I was missing and it turned
into this whole, "I should never have let you graduate early
fiasco." To that I had to laugh and say "a week ago you
were ever so grateful that I graduated early as I would have
been home when that robber broke into your house." Another
thing that ticked me off about this phone call was my mother
saying, "This isn't your responsibility, it's Ryan's." I
don't know if she was testing me or not - Silly mother,
Ryans responsibilities and mine are now intertwined. His
life is going to become my life and vise versa.
-My parents give me contradictory plans - they want me to
plan this all out, the most logical and practical method is
right in front of me, and I am simply not allowed to use it.

-This is all ruining my Mexico trip that I have already shed
so many tears about. Ryan would have to get another Visa to
go to Mexico. Who knows if they will even do the Mexico trip
for more than one year.
-Of course this is the story of my life, have to do
something outside of the norm. make things more complicated
then they should be.
-Another alternative would be for us both to take the year
off and work. Him there. Me here. But what kind of couple
wants to get married after a year apart? Might as well be an
arranged marriage at that.
-I had to laugh as I received an email from my father as it
recommended to me that I read my patriarchal blessing.
Doesn't he realize that religion is what got me here to
begin with. I am not doing to this because I believe it is
the right thing for an 18 year old to do. Doesn't he realize
I agree with him. The thing is I know it is the right thing
to do though. I have prayed long and hard about this - and
time after time I have received the same answer. It was
making me miserable because I kept denying it. But it's the
truth. I know it is the right thing for me. I could write
down all the things that have testified of it's rightness to
me, but that list would be longer than my list of woes.
-I could go to England for a year and work, and take online
courses from BYU. But then I would still be in England.

Anyway,
gotta run,
have class,
Emilee




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