dissaster waiting to happen.

I dont write because I mean it.
2007-06-01 19:31:03 (UTC)

sigh

So i just finished writing this whole bulletin on myspace
about the behavior of other people. Let me tell you how hard
that is not to use names or examples with people in them.
Its friggin difficult as all fudge. I mean, everyones done
nearly everything and I can think of a few times I've done
it but I wanted it as neutral as possible.
I'm tired of being hte one who gets yelled at because ive
done one thing and she cant talkt o other people or other
people cant talk to her and .. its a whoel fuckin' mess..
and im tired of it.. people should be more mature, and they
talk about DRAMA .. but its really BULL SHIT... drama is
shit that happens that doesnt need to happen, bull shit is
shit that happens that SHOULDN'T HAPPEN and it keeps
happning, BS Everywhere and i dont have a rock to stand on!!!!
Dan is the worst, ive decided. He pisses me off worse then
nathan. he acts like hes better then other people and like
hes smarter and AAHH drives me nuts .

heres what I wrote:
I was writing a blog entry and then it occured to me that
the people who SHOULD read it, wouldn't see it or read it.
The people who don't need to, are the ones who would, and it
would be a waste of their time since they didn't need to
read it. . so here was a better avenue of communication for
me to use:

I will not use names but you people know who you are that
this applies to. I've found lately there are a few things
that need to be said because no one seems to get it, and
maybe if you have it in writing I wont have to hear about it
any more and peoples' feelings wont end up hurt.

1. CLEAN UP YOUR MESSES
Just because you don't live in the space you'r at doesn't
mean you can make a mess and leave it there. The person who
does live there isn't your mother, and you wouldn't like it
if we went to your place and left you a mess you had to
clean up. Though some people have parents who are willing to
clean up after their childrens' friends. But, A lot of us
don't so, don't be an animal.. clean up your mess.

2. TREAT OTHER PEOPLES' PROPERTY WITH RESPECT
Its not yours and its in your way, what do you do? Ask where
it goes. NOT THROW IT ON THE FLOOR! No one would like it if
we started throwing magic cards or purses around getting
things broken, dirty, or ruined. So, Treat other peoples
things like you would your own and put them somewhere, not
throw them. And ask where they go, dont decide.

3. TREAT OTHER PEOPLE WITH RESPECT
This should be first but, in the end its not as big a
problem but its still an issue. If your at someones house,
or your hanging out with someone; treat them how you would
like to be treated.
For example, if your hanging out with someone and one of
their friends, or their siblings, or their parents comes
around you don't like thats not an exscuse to be rude or
vile. Because you may not just be hurting said
friend/sibling/parent you may be hurting your friend or
other friends around you. Its also immature to make jokes at
the expense of another human being, unless they deserve it
(because we all know the exceptions to this rule like Kill
It With Fire [-Rick XD]).

4. IF YOU DON'T WANT TO PITCH IN DON'T PARTICIPATE
This one is two fold.. because there is a solution to Part A
in Part B
PART A) IF your going to go out to eat with friends, pitch
in money and make sure its enough to cover your part of the
meal (Appetizer, entree, any dessert, and tip). Otherwise,
if you can't afford it, order something else, or don't eat.
While coupons are not cash tehy can take up to the cost of
your meal/dessert/etc off the check so, don't be shy with
using them.
PART B) Solution to Part A if you don't have cash, get a
coupon, or do something to make up for your lack of cash..
such as cleaning, which is often needed in many situations,
or helping to cook which comes in handy when we buy
groceries at the store and cook at home; its easier that way
then going out to eat and we can control unhealthy intake of
food.
BASICULLY: if you plan to eat 1) pitch in money -or- 2)
pitch in labor.. either way, don't expect a free ride,
especially those of you who eat more then your fair share.

5. IF YOU HAVE A PROBLEM; SAY SOMETHING
And when I say this I mean if you have a problem, tell said
person you have a problem with, not everyone else. Its rude
to talk about someone behind their back, unless they're
inaccessable (meaning another state or haven't been around
in a while) -or- you can't talk to them because you're too
angry (which its ok to talk till you can calm down enough
but if your just going to talk to others untill your calm
and then not say anything.. its kinda useless because the
problem will repeat.. i've seen it).
Everyone is at least 16 now. And to be sexist all the guys
are 18 now and SHOULD be mature enough to handle being
informed of their behavior.
So, instead of going to ONE PERSON everytime you have a
problem and telling them, go to the person you have the
problem with and say "I didn't like that you...." or "when
you did .... it pissed me off".
Theres no need to be rude, mean, angry, etc to the person,
especially if your trying to resolve the issue, and its best
to use neutral tones, not an "I'm better then you" tone.
We're trying to remind friends, at least thats what I'm
assumeing, and theres no need to keep things inside. I've
heard my over-fiar-share from nearly EVERYONE about EVERYONE.
exception: Some people don't listen to critisism. Some
people won't use your advice. And some people are just out
right retarded and won't get what your talking about. So, in
those cases, it may be best to just hit them with a stick
and walk away. *shrug* it happens. But, in the end its BEST
to talk to the person, so the offence isn't repeated.

6. IF YOU DONT WANNA , SAY SO.
People who don't want to come over, dont want to
participate, dont want to help, etc. Say so, Dont keep your
oppinions inside, and dont play the "well if you guys want
to then I guess I will" card cause it gets annoying. MAKE
DECISIONS, BE DECISIVE dont leave everything up to other
people because it CAUSES some of the issues Above. Whining
is for people who are under the age of eleven. Not people
who are becoming adults. Express yourself NICELY and you
shoudln't find yourself in a place you don't want to be.
exception: being a picky bastard or a whiney bitch is rude.
If your just saying it to be difficult, then shut up. Cause
everyone has their things; I dont like onions and I
certainly don't like wendys.. but ive eaten both. Its better
sometimes to say "next time could we not go to wendy's.. I
dont care for it too much" then "EEWWW WENDYS!!!" and run
screaming (no ones done that I just thought it was a little
asumeing to say). Tell someone, make it know, you dont wanan
go hiking, fine, sit and play chess, you dont wanna watch a
movie, go have a hot dog and watch the sun set, you dont
wanna do something, find a way to amuse yourself till the
others are done, or dont come. No one wants to have their
day ruined because they didnt say anything, and no one wants
to have their day ruined because someone wont shut up about
how they didnt want to be there.

WHY AM I WRITING ALL THIS??
in my time being friends with Steph, Tammy, Dan, Josh, Meg,
Kevin, Mike, matt, Chip, eric, Serena, Sarah, John, Randy,
Liz, Cat, Rick, Deanna, Deirdra, Fluffy, Nathan,smokey nate,
Paul, etc etc I've been talked to about all of these things
on more then one occasion, and about others and their
actions on more then one occasion.
I've seen everything in this bulletin happen, and whild I'de
like to make sure everything whas perfect, it seems more
often then not a lot of the people on that list don't think
they have to follow all the rules laid out for them, or they
dont want to do their fare share. Some of the people on that
list are TIRED OF IT just like I am (and they're the ones
who read my blogs so it was useless to write it there).
So, In the end i thought it usefull to post this, and see
what happens. Feel free to write me questions, or comments,
because I'm sure at least THREE of you will be offended like
your shit don't smell ..
-BUT-
Let me add: I've made messes, I've not pictched in, I've
bitched about other people I could have talked to, and I've
mde fun of people along with the rest of you, I'm at fault
too, but in the end I have also realized its wrong, and made
up for it, or at least tried to make up for, buying things,
cleaning things, helping out, and talking to people. but its
not often I see others who give a crap let alone do
something about their issues.


ONE LAST NOTE: Some people can't afford it, I understand,
but other peopel just plane DONT DO IT, if you expect people
to buy you something for your birthday, buy something for
theirs. I've been to nearly everyones birthday party and its
the same people who give the "Ill get you something later"
speach and dont follow through and the same people who go
out of their way to buy stuff.
If you dont have the money, or you don't want to, say
something. Don't be afraid to be honest. "I couldn't afford
to get you more then a card" doesn't make you cheap and
doesn't make you an ass hole. It makes you honest. But, "I
don't know you well enough to buy you something" is better
then "I'l get you something later" and never buying them
something.. ever...
exscuses are lies. Reasons are truths. Thats the difference.


So if they dont get the picture, at least the ones who will
read it, which is probably nobody.. then fuck em.




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