Nessa

RandomMusings
2004-03-27 00:19:16 (UTC)

On men and society in general

Okay, someone tell me why it is that men seem to enjoy all
the good times and say they will be there in the bad
ones... only to run away.

I don't get it.

Things can be going perfectly well and then one tiny little
thing comes up and they run for the hills like someone set
their tails on fire.

I'm not talking about something like cheating or fighting
about materialistic things and I'm not talking about
physical looks. I'm talking about things like the idea of
change, whether that is in location of where you live or
the type of food you eat... snoring, taste in movies, etc...

You get the picture?

Women in general will overlook a lot of things, BECAUSE we
love our man...even when he says things that hurt us in
small ways. Yet you tell a man some of those very same
things and he will be affronted and not talk with you for
days on end. You have wounded his pride.

For example, "Honey, I didn't get that movie, I hope the
next one is better." (him) "Well I liked it, you didn't
get it because of (insert reason here)let me tell you what
it was about and maybe you'll like it better."

OK... I'm a grown-up too and I think I have the ability to
understand what I like or don't like and what I see...and
if by change I didn't, it doesn't make me less intelligent
than you or unable to appreciate other movies of the same
genre.

But, I'm able to bite my tongue and overlook this. If the
man needs to feel like he's more intelligent and "THE MAN"
then so be it, it's no skin off my back and if he's happy
then later on I'm gonna be happy too.

I don't hate men, but I'm sick and tired of running into
cowards and males that don't pull their share in a
relationship. It really isn't that hard and if more men
stuck around and helped raise their families... more men
would get it and eventually society might be a nicer place.

Don't you just love it when you hear some idiot praising
himself for sleeping with a thousand women, siring 4..5..6
kids or more and not ever having to pay child support or
see them? (and if you don't hear the sarcasm in the above,
then something's wrong) ...and I'm not saying that women
are much better, because darn...there are a thousand ways
to protect yourself against getting pregnant and or
disease. CLOSE your legs chicas! Women have become the
enablers for the stupid actions of todays men.

It is NO surprise that men don't know how to be fathers...
because we have a huge gap in men with honor and integrity
and todays society. Women are raising the next generation
and sadly, we're having to work so hard we're not getting
the time that the kids need to learn HOW to become better
people and eventually raise their own families. I'm truly
horrified at what lies ahead!

It's also no wonder that people are turning to their own
sex for comfort and attention ... after all, how can the
opposite sex understand us when they don't know how and
have never seen how a relationship is SUPPOSED to be?

I mean, I feel incredibly fortunate that my parents stayed
together all these years and are still happily married! I
have seen all the triumphs and failures of their
relationship and I praise them for all they've been through.

I've learned a few things:

1. It's okay to be different in what you like and who you
are, than your mate.

2. It's okay to fight now and then, even in front of your
kids...as long as they see you make up, too.

3. (and this is important)Meet each other half way, because
you love each other and NOTHING within reason is too much
to do for one another.

4. Remember that you're a team, even with your kids, it is
still YOU and YOUR MATE.

5. BE HONEST with each other, lying just destroys the
foundations of your marriage and who you are as a person.

6. (and this really should be number one)Remember the
golden rule, which is basically to treat others like you
want to be treated.

7. Love yourself and be true to who you are, because if you
can't do it, then how can you expect someone else to do it?

8. Apologise when you're wrong...and we all are at some
point.


I am sure there is more, but we all have our own basic
needs. I don't know if anyone will read this, but come on
people, how hard is it to be a decent person and stand by
someone you love?

So now that I've ranted... if anyone knows of an honest,
healthy male with the basic ideals of an old fashioned
society, send him my way! I'm not perfect, but I darn sure
don't run from what has the potential to be something good,
even if it means a temporary setback. All things worthwhile
need a bit of a challange to get them... or else how would
we value what we had, instead of looking for the greener
grass on the other side of the fence?

As always,

Me




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