Date With Destiny
Personal Life Coach Letter #4" from Shad Helmstetter
If you have been a regular reader of my earlier Pep-Talks,
and now, the Personal Life Coach Letters I write to you
each week, you already know what I think about setting
goals. To say that setting goals is essential, is an
In this e-mail I’m going to give you some help. My goal is
for you get the habit of setting goals – in the right way –
at least every week. That’s not a chore; that’s just
choosing what you want to do with your life every day, and
writing it down.
Eugene, if you can answer “Yes” to each of the appropriate
answers in the following Goal Quiz, or give the right
answers to the other questions that tell you you’re on
track, your chances of being successful – in a lot of ways –
If you can’t answer a clear “Yes” to each of the yes/no
questions in this quiz, you’re still in luck. There are
some simple things you can do right now to get better at
setting goals – especially the small daily and weekly
goals – that will make things go a lot easier for you.
Before you take the quiz, here are some important points:
1. People who set goals regularly, write them down, and
track them, ALWAYS do better than people who just think
2. Goal setting is a “skill.” It doesn’t come to us
naturally (which is why so few people do it well). We have
to learn the simple process of how to set goals in the
right way. Once you learn how to do it, and do it for
even a few weeks, goal-setting becomes a habit. The more
you do it, the easier it gets. And when you do that, you
will change your life.
3. The single most important thing you can do, to get
where you want to go, or get what you want to have, is to
set a goal.
4. The most important part of goal-setting is regular
followup. We call that “Tracking.”
5. The most important goals you can set are not the big,
lifelong, financial independence kinds of goals. Those can
be good goals, but those are long range goals. The goals
you should be setting right now are daily, weekly, and
monthly goals. Those are the goals that are going to
get you there.
If I were talking to you every week on the phone, Eugene,
it would be my coaching job to make sure you’re doing
everything you can do to get focused, figure out what you
really want, and set the right goals to help you get there.
So there are some important questions I would ask you.
Answer each question to yourself, as though I were talking
only to you, about you. (In part 2 of this letter I’ll give
you some good ideas you can use).
Here’s the quiz:
1. Do you see yourself as the kind of person who sets
goals and reaches most of them?
2. How often do you take the time to actually set goals?
3. Do you write your goals down?
4. What kind of goals do you set? Do you set specific
daily, weekly, and monthly goals?
5. Do you also write down the obstacles that stand between
you and your goal?
6. Do you write out a short list of action steps that deal
with each of the obstacles?
7. Do you review your goals and your action steps every
week, and track your progress?
8. What do you do, each day, to keep yourself motivated?
9. Would you say that you have developed a habit of
setting goals regularly – daily, weekly, or monthly?
10. What would help you most – to set goals regularly, and
stay with it?
Your assignment this week, Eugene, is to make goal-setting –
for yourself – a top priority. Set some specific goals and
write them down. If you log on to Goals-On-Line.com you’ll
find there are ten areas of goals. This week, set a goal
in at least three of those areas.
In more than 25 years working in my field of helping other
people get better, I’ve never found a more absolute rule of
success, than the rule of setting goals. People who set
goals win. People who don’t, get where they’re going by
I hope you will set goals, track them, stay with them, and
reach them. I believe in you, Eugene, incredibly. And I’ll
talk to you soon.
Part 2. Information and Motivation you can use:
NOTE: If you haven’t already gone to www.Goals-On-Line.com
setting all of your goals there, you should. You can get
daily and weekly
printouts of all of your key goals, and I write to you,
each week, with an
update of each of your action steps for the week. I
designed the site and
wrote if for you. It is an incredible tool. You should
take advantage of
It is clear that one attribute that all people who reach
overall, in their work or in their lives, is that they all
set goals. On
the list of the Top Ten, most important things you can do
to discover what
you want, and get what you want, writing out your goals and
is always #1.
We’ve also learned that there is a right way to set goals –
and a wrong
way. Goal-setting, is a process. A simple one, but it has
steps. If you
get it right, and learn the right, simple steps, you will
make changes in
you life that you might have never thought were possible.
Here are some things you can do:
1. See yourself as the kind of person who sets goals and
reaches most of
them – or all of them.
If you want to achieve, get where you want to go, do your
best, be your
best, and know where you’re going – you have to start by
you are a goal-setter. That’s a choice, but it’s a choice
you have to
make consciously. I like the Self-Talk that says, “I’m a
m the kind of person who sets goals and reaches them.”
Choose, think it,
live it, and do it.
2. Take the time to actually set goals.
If you’re serious about your life, and getting what you
want, (even if you
don’t always know what that is,) take the time to set
goals. It takes a
little time to do that, but then, after all, you’re talking
the choices that will govern the rest of your life. Can
you imagine NOT
3. Write your goals down.
If you don’t write your goals down, they’re not real
goals. They’re just
wishes and dreams. A goal, no matter how large or how
small, once written
down, turns ideas into possibilities, and dreams into
realities. If you
want something, write it down. That’s where it all begins.
4. At least once a week, take a few moments and set
weekly, and monthly goals.
This is one of the most important (and simple) habits you
can ever give to
yourself. Take the time to think about who you are and
what you want.
Choose what you want. Think about it. Take the time, and
set the goal.
To do anything less would be to let your ship sail without
a rudder. No
real direction, no real map to follow. You should look at
your map at
least once every week.
5. When you set a goal, even a small goal, write down the
stand between you and your goal.
So many people miss this one. They set goals, but they
never write down
the obstacles that stand between them and the goal. It’s
only when you
list the obstacles that you can figure out the action steps
that will get
you past the obstacles.
6. Write out a short list of action steps that deal with
each of the
The obvious next step, then, after you’ve written down the
to write out the action steps. Write them out. Put a
completion date on
each one of the action steps. When you do that you’ll
always know what to
do next, and you’ll know when to do it.
7. Review your goals and your action steps every week, and
Even a quick five minute reading of your weekly goals and
will get you back on course. Your review automatically
asks yourself the
key questions: What did I decide to do? What do I have to
do next? How
will I do it?
Top pros in business do that in their businesses every
day. Your life,
and the course you’re setting, deserve nothing less.
8. Always do something, each day, to keep yourself
What DO you do to keep yourself motivated? Do you read the
autobiographies of winners? Listen to Self-Talk tapes or
tapes of some kind every day? Do you surround yourself
with, and always
talk with winners?
Finding motivation isn’t the problem; making the choice to
motivated is the problem. So make the choice. Do
something, every day,
to stay motivated. Keeping yourself motivated and going
for your own
goals is not the responsibility of the world around you.
motivated is your responsibility. And if you want to
worthwhile in your life, you should make the choice, and
motivated. Every day.
9. Develop the habit of setting goals regularly – daily,
Setting goals is a habit. You have to make the choice to
do it, start
doing it, and then stay with it long enough so that it
nature to you.
Pay special attention to the short-term goals you set.
Your daily goals,
weekly goals, and monthly goals. They are a lot more
important that your
dream goals. Your long-term goals will set your direction –
but it will
always be your short-term goals that get you there.
10. Get the help you need, and do everything it takes to
regularly, and stay with it.
When you decide to take your goals seriously, don’t try to
do it all by
yourself. Get help. Go online, read books, talk to people
who have been
there, find a mentor – literally surround yourself with
This is, after all, your life. And what you do with it is
up to you.
That’s pretty important. And the alternative – leaving the
days and weeks
and months and years in front of you up to chance – is not
what you were
born to do in the first place.
If you really study these few simple ideas and apply them
in your own
life, right now, every day, you’ll have an edge. Your life
better, you’ll be happier every day, and you will give
yourself the chance
of going far beyond your dreams.
I hope you do that. You should. That’s what you were born
to do in the