Date With Destiny
Personal Life Coach Letter#1Dr. Shad Helmstetter; How do you Feel?
This week I’m going to talk to you about how you feel about
That’s important for you to give some thought to. How DO
you feel about YOU? Not what other people think about you –
but what you, actually, down deep, think about yourself.
Here are 10 important questions I’d like you to ask
1. Do you like yourself? How much?
2. Are there times when you don’t like yourself. When?
3. Do you like the way you look?
4. Do you like the way you treat others? All the time?
5. Do you like the way you think?
6. Do you like how you spend your time?
7. Are you accomplishing what you’d like to accomplish?
8. Are there things about you that you’d like to change?
Give me a couple of examples.
9. When do you like yourself most?
10. On a scale of 1 - 10 (10 being best) how would you rate
how you feel about yourself most of the time?
Your assignment for this week, Eugene, is to read that
short list of questions once each day, and give yourself
good clear answers. If you do that, by the end of the
week, you’ll have a clearer picture of how you really feel
about you. (Is how you feel about yourself really
important? Read Part 2 of this week’s letter to find out.)
Just do that, and you will have taken one small, but
incredibly important, step forward.
I believe in you, Eugene, and I’ll talk to you soon.
Part 2: Information and Motivation you can use:
Eugene, there may be no thing that is more important to
your success in anything you do, than how you feel about
Since everything you do starts with you, and how well you
do begins with how you see yourself, then it makes sense
that you take the time to get right with you; see yourself
at your best, believe in yourself, like who you are, know
that you have incredible value and worth, and never, ever,
stop building yourself up.
A lot of people try to reach one success or another – it
could be in anything – but they struggle, or they never
quite get there, for the simple fact that they didn’t feel
that they were good enough, or smart enough, or experienced
enough, or deserving enough.
We all deserve the best – we were born to succeed and to
achieve our best – but a lot of us grew up being told it
was wrong to say we were good, or feel proud of our
accomplishments. We were told we were bragging, or vain,
and that was bad. In the process of being told not to
brag about our little accomplishments, we learned not to
recognize our virtues.
Or, our experiences, the ones we called “failures,” told us
that we weren’ t good enough. A lot of us didn’t realize
that they weren’t “failures” at all, they were just part of
learning. In time, we even started thinking that some
other people were better than us, or luckier, or had more
going for them. So we’d have to sit by and accept less,
while we were watching other people achieve more.
The truth is, Eugene, we all have it. We can all do it.
We may tackle things differently than other people do, take
our own direction, and maybe even take longer to get
there. But each of us has just as much promise
and potential as anyone else. We just have to see it; we
just have to admit it. And then, with all humility, we
have to learn to be proud of it.
When you were born, Eugene, you were given an incredible
gift. That gift was YOU! And all of the potential in
front of you. The gift never goes away – your potential is
still there, no matter what! It just gets covered over by
poor programs, bad advice, misunderstood experiences,
self-doubt, lack of goals, and impatience. But your
potential, all of it, is still there. You just have to be
willing to admit it – and to believe
That’s where it begins. You believing in you.
How do you feel about yourself? You should feel very
good. You’ve still got it! It’s still there.
I believe in you, and so should you.