debbie32

What is Love?
2002-11-13 01:04:56 (UTC)

What is Love?

I am very concerned and need some advice. I have been with
my BF for about 7 months now. We live together and I have a
son (from previous marriage) just to give you an idea of my
life. Ok now heres where it gets sticky. I love my BF
deeply. I think I love him more than I have ever loved any
man. He says he loves me. He is very caring and loving to
my son and to me. He kisses and huggs me. He makes love to
me like no one ever has.

Here is the problem.. I am ready and want more of a
commitment. I am not asking him to marry me in the near
future. I just want a commitment from him. We have talked
about this and he says. "I am not going to put a ring on
your finger now." and other times he says "IF we get
married it will not be until I feel comfortable with it."
He has also said things like: "I did it once and it was
hard on me and I am still not over that pain." and has even
once said that he wants to want for the love to grow. Well
hello is that not what marriage is about. Being in love
getting married and sitting back and watching the love that
you two share blossom. I then think that he will never
commit to me, I feel like I am in limbo here and not going
any where. I ask him if he loves me and he says yes. I am
very concerned because of my son. I see the love that my
son has for him and it scares me. I see how he looks up at
him with so much admiration (my son is almost 3). Am I
wrong for wanting this commitment? Am I wrong for needing
this security? I have asked him if he wants me to go and
his makes this comment. No I love you and I have to much
invested in you. I am not really sure what that means. I
know I love him with all my heart. I would walk on glass
for this man. I have given him my heart, mind, body and
soul..

Ok for things that hurt me. Things that he has said but
later stated that he was playing and he did not mean them
in a bad way.
I live in HIS house. He co-signed on a car with me.
I don't pay any of the bills. But I buy all the food! But I
have asked him to please let me know how much I need to
give to him for the extra of the bills... He never has. Ok
for the things he says;
1. I provide a roof over your head.
2. Talking with a buddy he said well I will not get out of
my bed.. If anyone sleeps in the guest room its her.
3. I am never going to get married again.
these are small things but make me think alot.

I almost want to tell him that if he can not make some sort
of commitment with me then I am going to leave. I am afraid
that it may not mean the same to him as It does me. I am
afraid that one day I will wake up and he will say sorry
but its just not growing enough. I also think that he might
feel sorry for me and that is why he has not truely voiced
his true feelings and I am also afraid that I am reading
into this to much and I should just sit back and wait. But
in the mean time I am falling further in love with him and
my son is too..




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