Adoption IS A Nightmare
2001-04-25 17:46:57 (UTC)


We convince ourselves that life will be
better after we get married,  have a baby, then another.
Then we're frustrated that the kids aren't old enough and
we'll be more content when they are. After that, we're
frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We'll
certainly be happy when they're out of that stage. We tell
ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse
gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, are
able to  go on a nice vacation, when we retire. The truth
is, there's no better time to be happy than right now. If
not now, when?...
Your life will always be filled with challenges.
It's best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy
anyway. One of my favorite quotes comes from Alfred D.
Souza. He said, "For a long time it had seemed to me that
life was about to begin-real life. But there was always some
obstacle in the  way,something to be gotten through first,
some unfinished business, time still to be served, or a debt
to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me
that these obstacles were my life." This perspective has
helped me to see that there is no way to happiness.
Happiness is the way.
So, treasure every moment that you
have and treasure it more because you shared it with someone
special, special enough to spend your time with..and
remember that time waits for no one.
So, stop waiting until you finish school, until you
go back to school, until you lose ten pounds, until you gain
ten pounds, until you have kids, until your kids leave the
house, until you start work until you retire, until you get
married, until you get divorced, until Friday night, until
Sunday morning, until you get a new car or home, until your
car or home is paid off, until spring, until summer, until
fall, until winter, unti! l you're off welfare, until the
first or fifteenth, until your song comes on, until you've
had a drink, until you've sobered up, until you die, until
you're born again to decide that there is no better time
than right now to be happy.
Happiness is a journey, not a destination.