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Melange
2017-01-16 01:10:30 (UTC)

His girlfriend messaged me tonight. And ..

His girlfriend messaged me tonight. And I was finally honest with her about him. I told her he's hit me before, hes cheated on me before. I told her how he can be cold and uncaring.

And I mentioned that I think his goal is to marry her and have a baby with her and have all of us, me and my sons included, all under one roof.

He kept saying, he wants us to talk, and be friends and get along. He said if we did not get along he would not marry her .

Why would so much emphasis be placed on she and I getting along unless we're around each other an awful lot.

I thought she would head for the hills like the last girl that picked me for information on him before getting into a relationship with him.

And he openly talked about her moving in with us but she wasn't okay with it. So she cut him off and he hasnt heard from her since.

Anyway, I thought this new one would go the same but she didn't. She was disappointed to find these things out about him. And she said sharing a man was never her dream. But that she would think about it and message me tomorrow.

And it made me start thinking. Some of us are blessed with healthy relationships. And cultural influence and upbringing probably has a lot more to do with relationships, happiness, than we'd like to admit.

If I were a traditionally attractive woman it'd be different. But let's be realistic here.

I'm short, fat, and black. 2 kids, no career, no degree. Maybe I had potential but that shit is out the window now.

The only guys that have even given me the time of day in the past year have not had cars. No jobs or either low paying jobs. Into drugs.

This is reality. I'm not going to have the same dating options as someone that looks like kelly clarkson. Or whoever.

Maybe Asshole is as good as it gets for me. For now. Once the kids are old enough to be more self sufficient then who knows. Older men realize what's important in life. I'm young. Guys my age still have looks at the top of the list. They won't date a girl if his friends won't think she's hot.

Anyway, I told her that he will take care of us. There's no doubt about that. But he is not the most emotionally supportive man. I told her if she still wants to marry him I support it but I just wanted her to know the truth....to know what she would be signing up for.




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