Quarter Life Crisis

Day in, day out
2014-07-29 15:04:08 (UTC)

ii. The Guy Who Just Came Out of a Relationship

So initially we were doing generic dating talk but I soon realised that L.I was not my type of guy, I don’t think this guy is ready to move on from this ex-girlfriend, I think he’s only here trying to date due to the fact that she’s completely cut off contact with him. He’s being forced to move on, and he’s not even doing that properly as now every conversation we had was about his ex, and how she’s mistreated him.

So I think many people have put to practice that old quote “to get over someone, you have to get under someone.” Personally I think this is what L.I tried to do by getting on the site but in order to do that successfully, I think you need to be in a right frame of mind, which L.I was not. Once when I was tipsy, we were talking and out conversation got quite sexy and suggestive, and he absolutely loved it, although when I sobered up we had the “it was fun but I don’t want to ruin the friendship” chat which was absolutely fine, guess it just shows the method works.

Although in regards to his ex, I believe he’s just looking for answers, all along the lines of “what went wrong?” but as I've recently learnt - with L.U in the first chapter, getting answers doesn't make you feel better about what’s happened, it only makes you paranoid about your behaviour with anyone in the future. I know its early days for him but the easiest thing for him to do is to keep himself busy and to just get on with life.

Despite all of his issues and we've made the decision to just be friends and his still hurt about his ex-girlfriend, I still find myself quite attracted to him. Looks wise he’s not really my type, like L.U, and I've never found dependency on a partner appealing but he’s so emotionally available and open, I find myself being supportive but I’d also love nothing more to just give him a hug and let him know everything is going to be okay and even a little cheeky kiss. Which I imagine to most seems okay but I still feel quite guilty, although this was both of our intentions when we first started talking but I don’t want to seem like I'm taking advantage and as we are good friends now, I wouldn't want to ruin that. I'm just a bit lost now.

I just hope this ex saga is over soon as I think I'm running out of words of wisdom, it would be great if anyone reading this has any advice I could dress up as my own and give him that would be great :) just send me it in the feedback.
Thanks
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