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My heart in a knot
2013-10-03 19:00:06 (UTC)

update on criminal

So I wanted to come and write an update on my sisters "boyfriend", however I should now clarify that she doesn't consider herself "dating" him any longer because apparently he said something to "scare" her and now she is apparently trying to end things with him.


However I will continue to call him her boyfriend because I truly believe she will never be able to get rid of this guy, he has already been able to manipulate her so well plus she sent him $300, bought him a pair of shoes, paid for his meals and a bunch of other things all for nothing in return, so what guy would give up on a girl so gullible??

Anyway, since I last wrote about him I believe I wrote about his crimes (violent abuse of a woman, drug use, robbery, using weapons..etc) and I think I wrote about my fears and why my sister has to find one of the worst people on earth to talk to. But now I have new information.


My sister corresponds with this creep through snail mail and sometimes I come across the letters, anyway recently he had written her a letter basically begging for her to take him back he even apologized for "scaring her" I have no idea what he said or did but if you can imagine this guy getting violent behind a jail cell with someone in a letter he is going to be truly violent in person. For some reason my sister doesn't have enough brain cells to realize this and she chooses to continue to write with him and fight with him... speaking of which she also sometimes talks to him on the phone and I one day had the displeasure of hearing this conversation (or I can't really call it a conversation) basically it was her yelling and arguing with him. Now does that sound like a loving relationship to you? or does it sound like he is a crazy killer in the making??

Anyway, so the next update is that he apparently has a brother who is ALSO in jail for similar crimes (btw, all of their crimes are public information for anyone to see). So his brother writes my sister, that's another red flag, this guy is going around giving OUR address out to other criminals!! can you believe the lack of concern my sister has over my safety???


Anyway, his brother writes my sister, and let me tell you, his writing is terrible, but even in the letter he confesses to have dropped out of school in the 4th grade!!!! anyway, apparently these two criminal brothers come from a LARGE family, apparently their mother and father were just pushing out kids and not caring for them (and now I am suffering because of that), I only know of one sister they two of them have and she ironically attends the same university as me. The weird thing is that her two brothers have lengthly criminal records yet she claims (on her facebook page) to be doing well off (In school, own car, no kids..etc) I have no idea how the boys turned out so violent and evil yet they have a sister who seems normal.. they may not have grown up together.


Well enough about their background and back to the letter, well let me write what he detail his nick-name is.. "U-God" ... seriously if that is not creepy then I don't know what is. My sister has really gotten herself in a world of trouble. In the letter he goes on to detail how he wants my sister and his brother to "get back together" and not only that but to get married and for them to have 6 daughters and 6 sons!!! ok this guy is crazy (thats what I was thinking). Why can't my sister see how crazy these guys are???

Anyway, my only concern with these creeps is their release dates, apparently one is scheduled for release in 2015 and the other in 2016, but the way our justice system works they could possibly get out earlier, by the way let me mention again that they have SERIOUS crimes against them, all of which my sister seems to ignore, of course guys like them would pry on my sister who is one of the most clueless and gullible people on the earth.


Now here's the serious question: What am I going to do?.. I feel like I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. I know my sister is going to fall for these criminal minds, shes going to fall right into their trap and I do not doubt she will be their victim. But what can I do to NOT also be their victim??? my first thought is that I'm going to have to move and never tell my sister where I am going because I do not doubt once she starts physically being with these guys her life is going to start going down quickly. Next thing I know she'll be crying to me about needing a safe place to go to get away from them, however I do not wish to be their victim! I've heard stories like this all too often on the news, I do not wish to be someones murder victim!!! my sister on the other hand doesn't seem to care!

Now.. I know it might seem like I'm overreacting, but in all seriousness I feel I have a legitimate concern for my own safety here, guys like them cannot be helped, not with the type of crimes they have committed. They will be lucky to get a job pushing a broom or cleaning toilets so they have absolutely nothing to live for once they leave prison. My sister doesn't seem to realize this simple fact, she also doesn't seem to be aware of the statistics and how many women fall victim to these men every year... and it's a pretty big number too... of course the story is always the same, if a homicide is committed my sister will get a 1 minute sound bite on the news about a "tragic event" and this guy will go to jail for 40 or so years, it happens everyday!

The thing that pisses me off about this situation is that my sister is not just putting herself at risk, but our entire family! what I mean when I say that is that these guys in their letters ask her about her "family", she has already told him my name and I did get a strange request on facebook from a guy who looked like he has done a few years in a jail cell. I blocked him right away.

I'm just trying to live and enjoy my life! I'm already poor, I have enough problems as it is so this is the last thing I need.

So I'll tell you what my current plan is. First I'm going to continue with school, hopefully by the end of next year I should be completely done with my bachelors degree, by this time they should still be both in jail providing that the justice system doesn't allow them out early. Then I will apply to all of the top university graduate programs I can find, and I want to get into a really great school so I'm working on keeping my 4.0 GPA. In graduate school I will try to make arrangements to move, hopefully I can find a work-study program or an internship in my field. The only problem with moving is that were I'm at right now works out best financially, and it's convenient, plus it's a decent place for my dog and any dogs I may get in the future.


Not only that but I've been learning more about apartment life that doesn't sound very appealing like car break-ins and fires. So I hope I will be able to possibly find a house, the only problem is that if I don't have a job that pays well then I won't be able to afford it. But I'm still going to search and see what I can find.. I really do wish they could make more economy houses... I don't need a large house, I tend to like small and cozy.

All of this is planned in the next 2 years or so and I can only hope by then I will have reached finical independence. So what happens if I don't reach financial independence and they are released from jail?? I might be stuck. I have no doubt he will eventually make his way over here invited or uninvited. In this case my only hope will be to keep an watchful eye and protect myself as best I can, if this is the case I will keep daily updates on what's going on.

All of this has made me feel very bitter towards my sister, she has no idea all the misery I've been going through thinking and planning about this. I've been doing ok with putting it in the back of my mind but every time I'm reminded that she is still corresponding with him it sparks a fear in me and I have a difficult time concentrating. I just can't understand her, why does she have to be so gullible and clueless?

Well, for my own sanity I'm going to put this in the back of my mind for a while and continue to concentrate on my academics. My only hope is that through education I can make something better of myself, I've come a long way but I have a ways to go simply to catch up with others my age. I started to write an essay for a contest my university is sponsoring and as I was writing it I realized my vocabulary isn't as sufficient as it should be for my age. I'm going to write the essay anyway and submit it and if I don't win then I will know it's because I need to work on my writing and vocabulary. BTW the first place prize is an ipad and the second place price is a $300 book voucher. So far I have started the essay but I don't think it's worthy of an ipad.


As far as my classes go I feel I'm doing really well, we have reached the mid-term of the semester and I feel I have 2 A's and a B, the B is because the teacher hasn't been doing a good job at conducting the course (and if that sounds like I'm trying to blame the teacher for my own shortcomings then it's not, she really has been doing a poor job)... I think next semester I'm going to try and get all of my classes as early in the morning as possible and then work in the afternoons. I'm also going to try to go full-time but I know that will be very costly.

I'm very surprised(and very pleased) that I have yet to run out of Data for my Internet connection, although I know it's nearing an end I'm glad I've been able to show the level of discipline and planning that I have. If my sister does not establish a regular connection by next week then I don't know what I'll do. Although this is a easy alternative it's not practical and it is costly as well. Until I get the connection I need I think I'll be using the library to do most of my work.


I also want to mention that I finally bought a new counter top oven and I love it! I can't believe I've spent an entire year living here without a working oven and now I'm just starting to feel the convenience of being able to fix a meal that isn't out of a pot. I plan on baking something soon, I've been buying a lot of pasta mostly because of convenience, typically on the back of the box they offer a easy recipe and list all the ingredients you need so you can get everything while you shop, it's very convenient for someone just learning how to cook, not to mention many of the ingredients are cheap which works for my tight budget.

I think I am developing new found love for cooking, which was never how I felt before, so maybe it's a sign of maturity.


I'm glad I was able to get all of that off my chest, I've been working on my drawing skills but much of what I draw looks comparable to a kindergarten drawing, so I'm going to focus more on photography to help relieve my stresses.


Hopefully I'll come write again soon, I want to write about politics and a few other subjects that have been on my mind.. until then..




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