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My heart in a knot
2013-09-04 23:35:04 (UTC)

Self-concept

Ok, so I had to come and write about this because it blew my mind when I put the pieces together on this one.


So in my communications book I was reading about self-concept... now I can't post what they book says word by word (although they explain it best) I don't feel like dealing with any copyright nonsense.

Basically, other people help shape our self-concept of ourselves. For instance if you tell someone they are beautiful and continue telling them eventually they are going to believe it and it will shape their self-concept and possibly change their behavior.

Now I want to apply this to my height, first off, I'm 4'11" (150cm), in America that's considered short since the average woman is 5'4". Anyway, for the longest time I never cared about my height, I realized I was short but it didn't bother me. Then I turned 18 and got my first job and was thrown into the adult world, suddenly people at my jobs kept bringing up my height as if I was the shortest person on earth, then I started to wonder if I was being passed up for dating because of my height as well... so basically people's perceptions of me changed my self-concept in a negative way. I never cared about my height but today I feel insecure about it because at work people call me things like "tiny" and things of that sort... I never had this problem until I started working, and by the way many of these rude people are uneducated so they can care less about my feelings.

Ok.. so I guess that's my rant for now, I'm really tired, I hope I explained that concept fairly well, the book explains it a lot better and I don't have time to elaborate, but I am now starting to worry about my self-concept and how I can improve it, so now I think I'm just going to have to be more verbal to people in regard to how I feel about my height.


that's all.




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