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My heart in a knot
2012-05-18 21:05:12 (UTC)

My sister (ugh)

So today I found out something quite disturbing about my sister, it has everything to do with the guy I mentioned before that she is dating (the one in jail).

Today she was at work and I was at home, I was tending to the dogs and giving them some time outside. After a while I went into her room because I was curious, and yes I know it might be considered "snooping" however she has become more of a private person around me because she knows that I am very critical of the things she does because most of the time it's think that are wrong and deviant in nature.

I noticed her phone sitting on her bed (apparently she has two), so I decided to look at it. And I'm glad I did however I was disgusted with what I saw and read. She is apparently "in love" with this guy who is in jail, he looks like satan, in a lot of his photos he has a real evil look, not only that but he has all of these tattoos on his body, everywhere. He's very skinny and possibly has HIV (I'm just assuming that) all of his photos where taken from his jail cell.

Now... what I'm about to say may shock some people but I'm going to say it, he sent her tons of nude photos... soo gross!!!! My first thought that came into my mind is that my sister is crazy and I want nothing to do with her anymore because she is stupid enough to even associate with this guy. I've know for a long time that my sister has problems besides being so gullible but I didn't think she was this stupid to make such a dumb decisions, not only that but she think she's "IN LOVE" keep in mind this guy has been in jail since she met him, so tell me how on earth can she be in love with someone she has never had to chance to sit down and talk to???? she's crazy!!!


I can't even begin to explain how much anger I have over this situation and at my sister, I know all that I'm saying right now might sound harsh maybe even irrational, however I only have 1 sister and she seems to be doing nothing in life but making bad choices and going down the wrong path. Let's start with the fact that she is in debt in over $600, she got a letter from the revenue service telling her she needed to pay or they were going to find ways to collect the money for her.


I'm just very angry, she is older then me, she should be in school or done with school and have a bachelors or masters degree, she shouldn't be in debt because she hasn't had to pay rent just like I haven't so it doesn't make any sense!!


Not only that but she's dating a psycho criminal, apparently getting married to him. He is brainwashing her, and she is stupid enough to fall for it. The entire reason why this pisses me off so much is because he is apparently getting out of jail soon, I don't know when but it might be around the same time she and I are moving into another house together, and here's the thing.. I already know she is planning on letting him stay with her (notice I said her and not US) because I am refusing to be around him, if she continues to stay with him then I'm moving out. And that puts a strain on me because the living situation we were going to have could of been very good for me since I am still in school and needing to save money.


Of course I am not going to be around her criminal boyfriend, I really wish I could post a photo of him here, he is the kind of guy when you see coming down the street you do what ever you have to do to avoid him.

WHAT IS WRONG WITH MY SISTER, SHE'S CRAZY.

I'm just so upset over this situation, I don't want him to know me, this is the kind of guy who KILLS, yet my sister is blind and stupid. She's falling for it just like she falls for everything. She and I are so different, like the sun and the moon. If you ever want to take complete advantage of someone they you should go to my sister first, because she will fall for it, not only will she fall for it but she will do it with a smile on her face and won't realize you took advantage of her until a year later.

She will drive you to work and back as long as you are her "friend", she will pay your cell phone bill and buy you grocery's and gifts. If you need money then she is the first to go to, she will give money to people who have no intention of using it for a real desperate need. She will buy you a flat screen TV and if you break it (or get it stolen) don't worry abut it because it was just an accident.

Those are examples of things she has done in the past, and that's just the things I know about. She is completely gullible. And now she is dating a psycho jail criminal, who may end up killing her, all I know is that I'm STAYING AWAY FROM HIM, I'm not going to be his second victim.

Now I know all that I'm saying might sound harsh, but there is so much to understand beyond her dating a criminal and being gullible, it's not like I'm just sitting back and not giving her advice, I've tried to help her, but she just acts like goofy from goofy movie and pretends like she doesn't hear anything. She keeps complaining about school being expensive, but in the last 7 years she hasn't paid any rent or even her own car insurance yet she was working 40 hours a week, so guess where all the money was going?? to her "friends"..


ok.. so her birthday is actually tomorrow. Ironically now that I find all this out about her "boyfriend", I had good intentions when I woke up this morning (before I saw her phone) I wanted to go and get her something nice for her birthday and maybe bake a cake for her too, but now I don't think I'm going to do anything..

I hate to say this because she is my sister but I don't really want to know her anymore, I can't help but to feel by these decisions she is making she is putting all of our lives in danger by talking to this guy, especially me.

She is asking for drama and a hard life, our parents have tried to give us the tools we need to be successful (although they could of done a lot more given what they have), the thing that pisses me off is that so many women fall victim to abusive husbands who kill them everyday, I can't help but to feel my sister is headed down that path.

She and I are going to go down completely different roads.. I'm going down the road to success and she's going down the road to death. So many women make this decision when they find the "wrong guy", this is why I study psychology to make these people easy to detect. And this guy has "PSYCHO" written all over him.

ok--- so I hope in writing this entry I don't sound like "the evil sister" I know I can be extremely harsh sometimes, however this is just one of those times where I feel my sister is truly making the worst decision of her life, and not only that but putting me in danger as well. I only say that because there have been numerous times where he wants to say "hello" to me (over the phone), he even once wanted to see a photo of me. I want nothing to do with him, and please don't think I'm judging too harshly, but when a guy is in prison and taking nude photos of himself and sending them to someone he has never gone on a date with then I think that raises 1000 red flags.

And it actually angers me because I do actually care about my sister and I want to see her be successful.


Anyway this subject has been bothering me all day today, but I'm not going to stress over it, I know if she continues to talk to him and tries to get him to move in then I will leave, and I won't tell them where I am going, I know I can make it on my own because I'm smart. She will have to deal with him on her own.




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