Truthful

Finding my flow
2012-03-12 14:26:10 (UTC)

My manager is really nice

atleast so far...I know, I know it's not a good idea to trust him so much but atleast for now.
He seems to listen, and do whatever it takes to help.
This is what I wanted really.
life is good yaar, I shall just focus on positives for now.
BTW, here is the script I wrote for my friend :)
Here it goes:

Let me tell you one thing first about the body language. Dont show any panic or nervousness or anger. Be calm, show concern and be proud that you are fulfilling your duties towards your company. :)

phase 1

J (the manager): Hey, how are you?
W: I am good, how about you? (with a smile and ease)
J: How are things at work?
W: well, yeah (pause) let just say....It's complicated. (show thaughtfulness not worry on face)
J: as in? anything wrong?
W: To be honest with you, last one month has been quite a struggle for me and unfortunately even though I am trying hard enough, the problem persists! (keep a look of thaughtfulness but no nervousness or worry)
J: Lets get to the point. what's bothering you?
W: hmmm.... how to put it?? So...There has been a communication gap with me and .----. There is something that's not right and but without duobt its effecting my efficient to the extent that I have no choice but to bring this issue to you. I am not sure again but I think we two lack a comfort zone needed for effective communication and working in sync with each other. I tried to talk to him in 1:1 but somehow he never shows up (no anger, just pure ignorance and 'I dont know' look) I am having hard time understanding the reason between his nonchalance. He is a great guy but I don't understand his confrontations at times during meetings. (you can talk more here..)
I strongly believe that its my (or ours) responsibility to fix this issue.
J (he may say): I don't understand you clearly. As in what do you expect from me? and what exactly is the matter?
W: J, I just want you to talk to him and find out if he feel the same for our relationship at work? Does he has any issues with me which he is hesitant to tell me directly? and do you have any suggestions for me on how to effectively communicate. Something from your experience, you can tell me...how to keep ourselves going at work and not let the overall efficiency at work to be affected even if there is a disagreement between two people (or some kind of stiffness).

Now, if J has some suggestions...think about them seriously. Listen to him very carefully (atleast give that look) and then try to find the rationale and develop the plan immediately in your mind. If you can't clearly see the direction to go (in your mind) after discussing with J, ask him again politely that you are looking for some clear directions and how much appreciative you are.
And most importantly, dont jump to any conclusion immediately. At the end of the meeting, give a big thank to J and a big smile and also a look as if he has enlightened you from dark. Show hope!
We can discuss again after this meeting.

Good luck,




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